There were times as a parent I mistakenly believed silence served as a protective shield around my children. I wanted to guard those who were “too young to understand” from being burdened and over concerned with complex problems and difficult decisions in our family.
Now I know silence created space for young minds with immature insights to fill in the blanks with misunderstanding & draw inaccurate conclusions. Stories concocted in a vacuum are filled with inaccuracies.
What if we gave them the truth and modeled honesty & vulnerability? What if we shared our need for God’s wisdom and guidance in real life, genuine, gut-wrenching circumstance?
How will children learn to turn to God if we pretend everything is okay? We are the ones whose example teaches them to cast their cares on the “burden bearer.” We demonstrate true dependency on Jesus when we openly call out to Him. He is alive and actively at work. Truth tried in the fire of circumstances becomes truth we can stand on. The truth allows us to release the responsibility to be shield and protection in the circumstances beyond your control. It places the weight of burdens on the One who offers to carry. Yes, silence is the weightiest burden of all.
The eternal God is thy refuge and underneath are the everlasting arms. (Deuteronomy 33:27)
As parents, we need your wisdom and discernment to know “when” to share “what.” As a mother, my instinct is to shelter and shield my children. But help me to trust you to use the difficult circumstances in our family to draw my child(ren) close to you.
I pray they will learn to trust Your unfailing love and eternal wisdom to lead them through every challenging place in life. Silence is flimsy protection, but your presence never fails to cover and shield. Thank you for caring for them even more than I do. In Jesus name, Amen.